This is the very first parenting article I’d posted on Parenting Tips site. In today’s article I will touch on how important of 2-way communication between we, parents and our children. The way to communicate with children are different from our usual adult to adult communication since children think in a much different ways than we parents do.
Communicating with our children can be a problematical task from time to time. We feel as if they are not listening to us; they think we are not listening to them. Great listening and communications abilities are keys to successful parenting. Your child’s beliefs, ideas and judgements have merit, and you have to ensure that you acquire the
time to sit down and listen openly and talk about them in all honesty.
It appears to be an innate tendency for parents to react rather than to respond. We draw reasoning based on our own beliefs and knowledge. In spite of this, in responding means being alert to our child’s beliefs and emotions while permitting them to convey themselves openly and truthfully without worrying of repercussion from us. By reacting, we as parents send off an idea to our child that their beliefs and views are worthless. Merely by responding and questioning regarding how come the child feels that way, it opens a dialog that permits the child to talk about their beliefs more, and provides you with finer comprehension of where they’re coming from. Responding also presents you a chance to figure out a plan of action or a solution with your child that possibly they would not have muster if they are on their own. Your child will appreciate the fact that maybe you do indeed understand how they feel.
In this kind of situations it’s the utmost necessity to give your child your total and undivided attention. Lay down your paper, stop doing dishes, or switch off the TV so you’ll be able to learn the entire situation and make eye contact with your child. Keep your composure, ask the right questions, and later try to offer potential solutions to the problem.
Do not dissuade your child from feeling annoyed, disappointed or sad. Our initial impulse may be to do or say something to direct our child away from it, but this approach can be damaging to our child. Once again, the key for a successful communication with your child are to listen carefully to your child, ask them appropriate questions to discover the reasons why they’re feeling that way, and then provide potential solutions to ease the bad feeling.
Just as we parents do, our children have beliefs and go through complex situations. Through actively listening and taking part with our child as they discuss it, it shows to them that we do care, we would like to lend a hand and we have the same experiences of our own that they can learn from. Parents out there, remember this, respond – don’t react.